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Monday, May 31, 2004 part 2: relationships
In my realm of fantasy, I always hope that you are with me, we could share the moment together. Have fun and great time. Things are often not as str8 forward as to contain only you and I. In my previous posting, I mention about someone, and I really hope to spend the time together with the person, but... It has never cross my mind to be involved in a relationship (ok, maybe a little but not all). It might sound pretty unfair but relationship is often a burden of responsibilities and commitments. I'm not afraid to to shoulder responsibilities neither does commitments puts me off. In many of my friends' relationship, one is often stripped of their own identity when it comes to involvement. And often when you realise that there isn't any breakthrough in relationship, things become stagant, things will make a turn for the worse. It will stay on like that until one says, I think we are not meant for each other. At the end of the day, 2 might not even become friends? Is it really worth it? I'm not sure if it's my background or my friend's experience. - 1/2 of my aunts from my father's side are not married and they don't intend to. they lead a pretty good life - 1 uncle from my mom's side are not married and from my observation he doesn't have the intention to. Nope, I'm not having a relationship phobia, but I just believe that if it's so difficult create a HAPPY outcome in a relationship without losing your own identity. Must as well don't play the game, and when you play the game, make sure you can afford to lose. My next opinion might cause me to be struck by lightning and nagged by RH and SH for endless hours and cow comes home. I still think I want to voice it out. I think that in a relationship, the outcome might not be a marriage. It might just simply be 2 person, cohabiting, sharing the same life. Marriage is just an addition of a piece of paper with legal bindings to protect the woman, give the woman an excuse to extort money from man even if it's the woman's incompetence. If 2 person is madly in love or something, the piece of paper doesn't really matter. ROM is just a scheme for government to earn money from couples. Imagine you need to pay to get married. As I was thinking of staying single to fulfill my dreams, moral issues suddenly stuck me. Filial to my parents, continuing the family line. As I reflect upon them, these are simply traditional chinese values pass down by chinese. Yes, I'm a proud chinese, but I'm not obliged to follow traditional values that are completely baseless. Worst come to worst, I'll just adopt a child lor. It doesn't really matter to me all these values, moral issues anymore. Not that I'm immoral or valueless, it's line (traditions) are drawn as str8(passed down thru generations), why can't we give it more curves, and bends (break the rules). BESIDES THIS, on my way back in the train, I saw this really lovely couple. This couple should be around 60 plus to 70, if my estimation is correct. I think the wife is suffering from a bit of senile or something? This husband was so caring to the wife. Amist all the broken relationships, there are many other heartwarming relationship out there. I could just imagine how many of my friends would end up liking that someone for life? OTHER THAN love relationship, we should not neglect other relationship such as friendship, kinship, |
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